Thursday, July 21, 2016
[Aberystwyth] "Indeed, Allah does not wrong the people at all, but it is the peopl...
"Indeed, Allah does not wrong the people at all, but it is the people who are wronging themselves" - Surah Yunus, 10:44
Today, we're taking it upon ourselves to exhort in the names of freedom of speech, equality of treatment, human rights and etc. We're marching on streets, chanting, demonstrating, protesting and on a much minuscule sense, we're using social medias to create boosting effects as we continue to offer our solidarity for every tragic events that is going on, we write out heartfelt posts, confessing our view on the world and etc. We are gaining so many attentions from people around the world and people are coming together to work for various causes.
While all the above are all but one of the bravo essences of today's world, from day to day, we sometimes forget to stand in front of a mirror and look at our own reflections. Forget all the global causes and movements for a minute and think about the situation of our soul. Are we free? Really? Have you thought of how much you also, in fact, need the rights to that freedom you've been preaching as well as others?
Ask yourself this, do you feel as if you've freed yourselves from the shackles of this world? There are signs to know that we, sadly enough are not. To mention everything would be inconvenient so I'll list out a few.
- We rarely celebrate our own success but would go all out to clap our hands for others. To us, what we've achieved are so trivial in comparison.
- Ridiculing the life we're leading, the situation you're in and thus we'll start complaining. Without knowing, we're scraping away at our belief in Qada' and Qadr bit by bit.
- We wear what everybody seems to be wearing. Fashion trend has become such a phenomenon that everyone would've had spend as many as they could just so that they could stand at the same level as others, feeling satisfied only when they've done so.
- Our definition of happiness is no more a straight forward thing but rather have become a complicated state which we think we couldn't ever achieve.
- With time, we would become afraid to break away from the mainstream and much preferred to stick amongst the others.
- We would experience a devaluation in our self-esteem, confidence and self-worth.
- We would look other people who are seemingly well-off than us and think that they're perfect that they're a bunch of prestigious people who are sitting right on top of the food chain.
- We're becoming less confident in what Allah has in store for us.
- Whenever we aren't able to achieve the perfect picture we see in others, we become depressed and lose the wills to go on.
"I must admit, I was once a victim of such lowly definition of actually living. I must have gone astray, somewhere along the road, that I was allowing myself to fall under the tricks of this world and the unseen evil forces. Thinking about it today, I feel ashamed (truly am) for my naivety. I didn't realise until late that amidst all the tangling chaos of growing up, education, family life, ambition, dreams and love life, I was losing myself. I've let my body swayed by the static breeze of this world. In turn, my outlook in life becomes distorted and wrongly focussed on unnecessary things. My definition of happiness and living a good life finally reduced into something totally unlike me but into what I felt was right, after spending so many times studying other people's lifestyle, achievements, beliefs and etc. Thus, before I know it, I suffered greatly"
Now I've come to a realisation of how much we're all living under false pretences. Really, we don't have to be. Like what I was saying, our soul have the right of its own and today we're going by, hardly not noticing of its desperate flail.
I believe that we should all feel liberated and not incarcerated in a medium which we've come up with ourselves. In essence, we are free to walk around in our own skins, to flaunt our flairs with confidence and to keep a dictionary full of our own definition of happiness and beauty, not other people's. We have the rights to owe this to ourselves and in an ideal world, nobody is going to set up a barricade with the sole attention of stopping us from achieving this. It's all in our own little head. But of course, this world is far from splendid and because of that, people would talk behind our back, judge and smirk at our different take in life. Some wouldn't be as extreme but with the way they are going, they are unconsciously forcing it onto you. This is where we would be tested. It's true that they look as if they're having it easier than you're, they are prettier perhaps, they are wealthier, their love life is polished clean and sparkling, their sense regarding fashion are just breathtaking and by the look of their wide smile, the extra mile they are stretched, they are happier than you. But that doesn't mean that you should measure your life with theirs and start comparing how many inch you're lacking.
We all lacks in something. Just because what they're showing you are all high and mighty, that doesn't mean they are perfect and that they don't have their own demon to fight. Just think, how low you would appear to be, if you're falling knee down at their expense. We are weak as humans but this bowing down gesture, this submission is not pretty, wrong and most certainly unworthy when Allah S.W.T Himself has created us with so many qualities which in our lifetime, would be far too short for us to explore the rest of its vastness.
|True peace of mind|
With the fast rate of today's world into becoming more modern and sophisticated than yesterday, we're continuously and extremely become exposed to the online world and is dangerously so. We tend to stay on the web more often than we are in reality and this, without a doubt has opened doors to a few other problems we wouldn't encounter otherwise. These problems are placing a jeopardy on a lot of things which could go the wrong way if we let it or when we're too careless to get notice of.
Although I know they are a lot more to it, but I think this is the number one reason and cause that would silently lead to Muslims losing faith in themselves.
For one, people are having more ease and access in freely depicting their life stories to the world via social medias such as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. And sometimes, they would embellish it a little so that it would at least seems prettier for other people to see than it really is. The thing with social medias is that it's a newly emerged, modern form of hypocrisy, wrong intention and sins machine. For example, people are unintentionally bragging regarding their wealth, acts of worship, clothes, beauties and happiness. Somehow they sees it as a reckless need to post numerous irrelevant photos of how happy or in love she/he is with her/his spouse perhaps or how proud he/she is, with the kind of wealth she/he is walking around with or how pious he/she is in doing such and such acts of worship. It was as if they are saying "look what I have" and that is making them satisfied.
Just remember that looking perfect and poise on the web does not mean that they are as a person. Do not let social media be the ruler in levelling our self-worth and values. Thus, it is fitting to say that whenever you're trying to ponder upon yourself (self-reflection), the first step you should do is to edge away from the account of how you're looking on social medias and take it from someone who knows you best and those are Allah the All-Knowing, people (family and friends) that are closest to you and of course your own self.
The same thing applies to the latter situation. Just because you are inactive in posting selfies, couple photos, group photos, friends shots and etc, that does not mean that you're a sad person who is leading a boring life, with absolutely nothing to flaunt around. It's all down to our awareness in keeping our intention right and playing safe. Once we get that, we would know that socials medias cannot only be a hotspot where people are doing a worldly marathon, no but a place where we could come together as a nation for so many different reasons. Why mustn't we, for example, start making it a hub where we could share beautiful ideas, thoughts and advice? Or where we could loosen ourselves up after a long day of work? Why must these social medias be nothing but an uptight, you vs me, hormone filled, envy concentrated kind of place? And most importantly, why must we be the victim and sacrifices our whole ideal lifestyle because of it?
Last but not least, keep in mind that you're who you're. Don't ever feel that you're more inferior than the others. Be proud, stand tall and start counting your own blessings. Now is the time for you to really concentrate on what your heart is saying and prepare to be amazed at just how eager you've been wanting to come out. Wear that striped bumblebee tights of yours if you want to!
Allah knows best...